It’s a lot worse than we want to realize, because the truth ain’t pretty.Tazz Adams
On Monday I sat in a session with a doctor discussing COVID. I know, I thought the same thing, yet another presentation, how boring…But I learnt a whole lot and I’ve gained a new found respect for all things quarantine a newer understanding of the virus and it’s new variants.
We have been living like the virus and the disease is creates within us is over or less dangerous. With the first lockdown we were so safe with our habits, social distancing and of course mask-wearing. But this time around, we have been a lot more laxed. We still wear our masks and practice social distancing, but we have been prepping for outings that are outdoor and planning overnight hiking trips but after the doctors presentation, I realize that it’s a little premature.
There is a lot of infections everyday and even though we have a 96% pass rate of people overcoming the virus, that is still thousands/ millions of people because of how large our population is. It’s a statistic that I feel is being downplayed to avoid panic across the country. The doctor warned that we should actually be in a higher level of lockdown but with our economic risks we are forced to allow businesses to operate! Not because the virus is any less threatening. There are currently over 11000 infections DAILY!
I have a few doctor friends that are in the front line and what they go through is something I don’t think we will ever realize unless we saw it firsthand. She also went on to saying that we have not yet overcome our second wave peak and we’re already at risk of a third wave! Do you believe that? If we don’t practice better etiquette when it comes to our daily activities, we will be in this thing for years to come. There is already a risk that we will never have a normal life again because, if anything, things are looking really bleak. Our economy is already crumbling and I remember from the first time the President spoke about the budgets and all the billions of rands we’ve borrow from United Nations and other countries.
Our country is already in such bad debt and we are continuing to borrow money because how else will we stay afloat? They are really shadowing us from the truth because I don’t think we can really handle what’s going on out there.
- I miss a lot of the outside world, being amongst people and meeting new ones
- I miss going to Paul’s ice cream with my friends at work during lunch breaks
- I miss the random talks with people in the elevator of my work building
- I miss strangers’ smiles at the mall
- I miss the freedom to snack while I shop
- I miss TRAVELLING
- I miss going to the airport and those flights to discovering new places and watching the locals while they set up their shops
- I miss going into every store, touching items and not having to worry whether things are clean and safe
- I miss going on overnight adventures to local resorts
- I miss the gym (they’re open but it doesn’t feel the same)
- I miss experiencing something for the first time
- I miss hugging
- I miss my old norms
- I miss going up to strangers at malls for my prank videos
- I miss eating at restaurants
- I miss doing photoshoots
- I miss going to events and doing so much that I don’t get enough sleep every night
- I miss going to the movies and standing in line for the popcorn
- I miss going to festivals and concerts
Gosh! There is a lot of things I miss, but what I dread most about these times is the people that I care about, getting sick, dying… struggling. It’s been so tough, emotionally and mentally, like how are we coping with this? How will we ever recover from all the loss there has been since 2020. I don’t know about you guys, but my heart has been taking a hit!
We all want this to be over so we can go out and follow our dreams, find what makes us happy and just live… but surprisingly enough, things are not likely going to change for a really long time. We have to find an alternative to our stress releases. We NEED to find something we can do to make sure our mental health is in good state. I cannot tell you enough how much pain I see and how many stories I’ve read over the last year where I feel helpless. I want to be there for everyone and be there for myself and just help everyone heal… but the burdens now are so heavy, even mine sometimes feel a little too hard to bare.
I’ve put this out on social media and I thought I would put it on my blog as well: My personal email address is firstname.lastname@example.org Please email me if you need to talk to somebody, if you’re feeling alone or if you just want a pen-pal. Also reach out to every person on your contact list, send them a little picture (see below for some cool ones) and just catch up with them. Then ask them to do the same with their contact list and maybe when this year is over, we’d have gained a closer friend, or together we’d have started a community of love and care. Or better yet, we’d have saved a life.
I cannot stress enough how much people need each other during this time. It is not easy and we don’t realize what a little message can do for someone. Let’s start this community of kindness and be there for one another.
If you want to do something extra special for your close loved ones, maybe send them some flowers, or bake them some cupcakes and drop it off or write a physical letter to someone. Just do little things that could make them feel as cherished as they are. We think they know, and sometimes they have no idea. Also if COVID has taught us anything, it is that life is extremely short and our tomorrows are not promised. Reach out to your family and your friends because you may never have another chance.
If you need help and you want to talk to a professional, there are a lot of options and if you go to my Bonafide Merch – Store Mission, there are links to organizations that are specific to your needs. Please go and visit their pages and get the help you need. You do not need to suffer alone or in silence.
On that note, I pray that you are all well and that you know how special and important you are. That you are relevant and needed. Keep holding on and know that hard times always pass, just as good times come and go. Trust the process and trust The Almighty.