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Thoughts before attending Fashion Week

First of all, I need to apologise for being so quiet. I have thankfully been very busy these last couple of weeks and also in the process of getting my YouTube channel up and running, I’ve been a little slow with my blog posts.

But low and behold, the draught is over! Yay! How are you? What have I missed in your life?

Let me bring you up to speed on what you might have missed in the past couple of weeks of mine..

First of all, I did a little bit of soul-searching, yet again, and learnt that as much as I’d like to do that every once in a while, it is an ongoing process and just seems to happen at any point, with little to no warning.

I’ve learnt that being myself is the easiest thing to do when I stick to pleasing myself first. Because one, you can never please everyone, and two, when you love yourself, the negativity of others simply bounces off you!

In the last few weeks I’ve attended a few events and all the footage from those events will be revealed very soon. Whether in an upcoming blog post or a Youtube video and I am truly excited to share them with you. I hope that you are excited to see them?

This past week was South African Fashion Week #SS18. It is always such an experience and I’ve met so many new friends that I am positive I will share a beautiful journey of friendship with, well that’s if they feel the same about me! LoL

Last year I spoke a little bit about the behind the scenes regarding Fashion Week, the fashionable SAFW goers and the unspoken thickness in the air that lingered around us. This year around, it was like DUA LIPA taught me the best lesson of all because IDGAF! Okay maybe it was the necessary soul searching that came just in time, but I really didn’t stress about anything!

Whether it was the seating arrangements, my outfits or the social scene that was more of Regina George than Cady Herron. I just wanted to take in the entire experience and make it the best experience possible.

When I first started attending SAFW, I was a little worried about fitting in because I didn’t want to look like the imposter that broke in, I wanted to feel like I belonged there. I was led to believe that front row was extremely important because it was like the measuring jug to my social worth? And ultimately MY WORTH! But this time.. even if those statements were true, I wasn’t about to make them valid because I honestly don’t care about all of that. When you let go of the idea of what others think of you, that sense of freedom to be yourself unapologetically, is just about the best feeling in the world.

I was always at a struggle to know if the attire I chose to adorn myself with actually looked good, because surprisingly enough, people at Fashion Week are not particularly quick to complement each other unless there were those awkward silent moments in the conversation when they could fit in one of those “who are you wearing” type questions. I saw a lady at SAFW this week with a t-shirt which read “Dress to Impress yourself” and even though I am a strong believer in that, it wouldn’t hurt knowing whether people were ‘checking you out’ or silently praying for you. I accidently caught somebody taking a picture of my ankle-high fishnet stockings in my platform sneakers and because she didn’t make eye-contact with me after, I’m not sure if she liked it or sent it off to the ‘How do I Look” TV crew to get me help!

Either way, I truly dressed for myself this week, and I was not only comfortable but people actually complimented me! YAY! I honestly feel that when you are happy with yourself and feel comfortable in your own skin, it is like a positivity glow that is more apparent than you will ever realise. I wore the fancier clothes in my wardrobe but the pieces I would normally wear and not trying to find some quirky outfits that kinda only works for Fashion Week. I surrounded myself with positive people that were riding on the wave of excitement and loving the experience that proves to be ever-changing.

Experiences are what you make them and if you are concerned about what others think of you, you will forever be in a prison of self-doubt.

The reason I am starting my series of SAFW posts on this note, is to hopefully empower the people who are stuck in feeling irrelevant in a superficial world that you’re not meant to fit into.. you were born to stand out and being yourself is the best way to start.

Remember this

You are Enough

You are Perfect

You are Beautiful

Midway through the week I stopped to realise how many amazing moments I’ve had in my blogging career. I got a little sentimental about the experiences, the people and the fact that I started all of this from scratch, from an idea only I saw at the time. this also got me thinking that we don’t give ourselves the credit we deserve sometimes, we put too much emphasis on what we are missing out on and too little emphasis on the incredible things we achieve every day.

Goes without saying… we should stop that.

The next SA Fashion Week posts will be more about the fashion, the social scene and the cool little moments what I would certainly love to share with you! Have an incredible day!